The Power of Understanding Yourself: The Key to Self-Discovery, Personal Development, and Being the Best You - Dave Mitchell 2019
Extracting Me Worksheet
LOCUS OF CONTROL: BEING ACCOUNTABLE FOR ME
Consider an example in your life that reflects your use of an external locus of control that contributed to stress. List it and ask yourself the following:
· Why have I chosen not to manifest an internal locus of control on this issue?
· If I were to commit to one action that might positively affect this situation, what would it be?
· Am I ready to do that? If not now, why?
· Upon taking an internal locus of control action, how did this situation change?
· Did this outcome reduce my stress? Improve the situation? Why or why not?
THE CRUSH: THE CORE IDEOLOGY OF ME
Identifying Inputs
· In what ways did my parents contribute to who I am today? Siblings? Friends?
· What memorable childhood events or experiences have had a lasting impact on me?
· What successes in my past have made me the proudest? Why?
· What failures have I experienced that left a lasting impression? Why?
· What individuals have served as mentors to me and why?
· What characteristics in others are most inspiring to me? Why?
· What characteristics in others irritate me the most? Why?
· What are my happiest memories?
· What are my saddest memories?
· If I could change one thing about my childhood, what would it be? Why?
Identifying Outputs
List your top five core values and define each.
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Defining Your Core Ideology
Using the definitions from your five preceding core values, write your core ideology below.
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WHAT’S MY STYLE? SHADES OF ME
My assessment results are:
Expert |
Romantic |
Mastermind |
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· My primary style preference (lowest score) is
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o How would I describe the influence of my primary style on me?
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· My secondary style preference (second-lowest score) is
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o How would I describe the influence of my secondary style on me?
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· Which of the three distribution patterns does this represent? (Dynamic, Nuanced, or Common)
o How does my distribution pattern influence me?
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· My tertiary style preference (third lowest score) is
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o How close is my tertiary style preference to my secondary style preference?
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o What does the relationship between my tertiary style preference and my secondary style preference tell me about my style?
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· My least preferred style (highest score) is _____________
o How does that influence my overall style?
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· What have I learned about my style as it relates to the following categories:
o Complementary Versus Contrasting Balance
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o Preferences Versus Vulnerabilities
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o Impact on Resiliency
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· Write a paragraph or more about Me that summarizes all the information that you assembled about your style.
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VERAISON: THE EVOLUTION OF ME
· What major life experiences (inputs) have occurred to me since adulthood?
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· How did I react to these experiences?
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· How did these experiences change what I valued (outputs)?
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· Did I change my core ideology as a result of these experiences? If so, how? If not, why?
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· What changes in my core ideology would I make now, having reflected on these life events more?
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AGE-WORTHY: MAINTAINING THE BEST ME
What is your plan for a new or continued commitment to each of the following?
· Lifelong learning
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· Civil discourse
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· Personal wellness
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About the Author
Dave Mitchell is an internationally recognized, award-winning speaker on leadership, relationships, selling skills, and customer experience. He founded the Leadership Difference, Inc. in 1995. His popularity is based on his unique ability to bring humor and authenticity to proven business strategies and complicated applied cognitive psychology concepts. He is also a certified advanced wine sommelier, which is a far more popular topic for discussion at parties. In addition to this book, Dave authored Live and Learn or Die Stupid and The Power of Understanding People.
When not traveling around the world delivering “enter-train-ment” to his many clients, Dave enjoys tending to 20 acres of land outside Walla Walla, Washington, in the heart of the Washington wine country with his lovely bride, Lori. They have two adult children, Brooke and Slade, and a collection of animals of the equine, canine, and feline variety.